Often violence and co -dependence are very closely interconnected with each other. Co -dependence is a state in which a person is located, living with an aggressor or a person dependent on chemicals. As a rule, co -dependence develops in people who have received psycho -trauma in childhood from parents or other significant persons. And also for those who are subjected or subjected to any violence, including domestic violence.
To understand how much such a model of behavior is characteristic of you, we suggest that you go through a test.
Perhaps the test will put you on thinking about yourself, about the situation in which you are now or will help change your attitude not only to others, but, above all, to yourself.
This test (the co -dependence scale B. and J. Winehold) will help you determine the degree of co -dependence in your life and relationships with other people.
Try to answer all questions true. Usually, the first answer that came to mind is the most accurate. Put the numbers from 1 to 4 after each question:
• 1 - never
• 2 - sometimes
• 3 - often
• 4 - almost always
Test questions for co -dependence:
- I am inclined (inclined) to take responsibility for the feelings and/or the behavior of other people.
2. I find it difficult to identify my feelings, such as happiness, anger, embarrassment, despondency or excitement.
3. It’s hard for me to express my feelings.
4. I feel fear or anxiety at the thought of how others will respond to my feelings and behavior.
5. I minimize the problem and deny or change the truth about the feelings or behavior of the people with whom I communicate.
6. It is difficult for me to establish and maintain close relationships.
7. I'm afraid to be rejected (rejected).
8. I try to always achieve perfection and judge myself strictly.
9. It is difficult for me to make decisions.
10. I am inclined (inclined) to rely on the opinions of others, and not act at my discretion.
11. I am inclined (inclined) to put the desires and needs of other people to the fore.
12. I am inclined (inclined) to appreciate the opinion of other people above my own.
13. My self -esteem comes from outside, depending on the opinions or actions of other people who, it seems to me, are more versed in this.
14. I find that it’s hard to be vulnerable (vulnerable) and ask for help.
15. I am always subjected to control or strive to control, and vice versa, I always follow that I can never be responsible (responsible).
16. I am too loyal (loyal) to others, even if this loyalty is not justified.
17. I have a habit of considering situations on the principle of "all or nothing."
18. I am very tolerant (tolerant) to inconsistency and mixed assignments.
19. In my life, emotional crises and chaos take place.
I try to look for a relationship where I feel “necessary” (“necessary”), and then try to keep them.
To get the overall result, add the numbers. To interpret your level of co -dependence, use the following scale:
- 60-80-a very high degree of co-dependent models.
- 40-59-a high degree of co-dependent models.
- 30-39-the average degree of co-dependent and/or contrasting models.
- 20-29-very few co-dependent and/or high degree of counter-dependent models.
This test is only part of the diagnosis and cannot fully indicate the presence or absence of certain behaviors. For complete diagnosis, it is best to contact a specialist.
